Why it’s hard to forget your Ex
At one point or the other in a person’s life, we all been in love and had first loves. Some people are lucky enough that they find their life partners from the first love while others are not.
This is where love number 2 and 3 comes in. the list can be longer than that. For these people, it’s always hard to move on or even forget the first love.
You may be wondering what these people are hooked on such that they can’t forget the first loves. The reasons are quite simple and interesting, here are some of the reasons why it’s difficult to forget that first love.
Brain chemistry and connection
First loves are often very strong emotional connections. In many cases, they happened before the logical parts of the brain have been fully developed and when bodily hormones are raging. This creates an overpowering emotional bond through the release of the hormone oxytocin, which is the same hormone that bonds mothers and their children.
Oxytocin is known for being the love hormone. It helps bond people closer together, it’s what keeps some people monogamous, it can lower your inhibitions, and it can help you become more open and trusting of others.
Your brain is wired to remember and seek out pleasure
Your first love is unforgettable because of how the brain works and of what falling in love teaches you about yourself.
When you fall in love, a surge of chemicals, such as dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin, floods the brain. These “feel good” chemicals can cause you to feel euphoria and intense pleasurable feelings, especially when they’re combined with physical touch.
Your first love affects all your relationships
Once you’ve experienced something so good as falling in love for the first time, you’re likely going to chase after that feeling again and again. It’s a big reason why people get hung up on their first love long after the relationship has ended.
Your first love will affect all your relationships after because of what it teaches you. For instance, you’ll learn for the first time that you can be wanted and desired.
You’ll also learn how you want to be treated by another person. When you end the relationship, you’ll learn what heartbreak feels like.
Just because your first love is hard to forget, it doesn’t mean that it’s the only true love you’ll ever have. For some, it might be. But for others, it’s a learning experience. These are just the reasons why that first relationship is so hard to forget.
Charline Carren is a blogger and an editor at Tech for Development. A trained Public Relations and communication specialist.
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